Something I lost sight of when I was a new mom was self-care. I took on the majority of the mental load of running the household, and I truly lost “me” for many years. At the time, of course, I was engrossed in my kids and was trying to be the best mother possible for … Continue reading Fill Your Cup
20 Things You’re Allowed To Do
1. Say “no” with no explanation 2. Change your mind 3. Speak your truth 4. Cut toxic people out of your life 5. Rest when you’re tired 6. Make no excuses for how you survived a trauma 7. Love whomever however you choose (with their consent, of course!) 8. Make changes in your life that … Continue reading 20 Things You’re Allowed To Do
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Don’t Get It Twisted
If you've been reading my blog for any length of time, you know that I have struggled with boundaries - setting and keeping them - and that I have done a ton of personal work to be able to utilize them in my life. In general, it feels empowering to stand in solidarity with myself. … Continue reading Don’t Get It Twisted
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Forgiveness Part Deux
As a follow-up to my last post, I thought I'd offer the more uplifting story of how I forgave myself after my divorce. You might wonder how anyone whose spouse has lied, cheated, and left could feel any kind of guilt over divorcing that person, but I can tell you it's definitely possible. My biggest … Continue reading Forgiveness Part Deux
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Forgiveness
Through the years, several people have told me that in order to "fully heal" I need to forgive the people who have wronged me. It's a nice thought, and there are numerous people I have forgiven in my lifetime. Some actions, however, are not forgive-able. You may disagree, and that's your right. But doling out … Continue reading Forgiveness
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Fingers Crossed
Tomorrow, my son returns to in-person school for the first time since March of 2020. It's something he's looking forward to and something I'm a little anxious about. Even though he has autism, my son is incredibly social and loves to be around others. He has always loved school, and being home hasn't been ideal … Continue reading Fingers Crossed
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Where Ya Been?
Dang, it's been months since I blogged. It's not that I haven't had anything to say; I have. It's just mostly been a barrage of middle-aged-woman irritations, though, and I haven't been too sure that's something that needs to be sent out into the Universe right now, ya know? But here's the deal: I started … Continue reading Where Ya Been?
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Reset
Pacific Twilight (image by author) For all of us, the last year has been out of the ordinary in ways we never could have imagined. We’ve not been able to see so many people we love. We’ve not been able to travel wherever we’d like. Many of us have tried to stay home and limit … Continue reading Reset
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Facebook Memory
You know how Facebook shows your memories? One popped up today for me that made me realize how much I’ve changed. I had made a comment about how great my birth year had been, and then I said I hoped that year - 2013 - would be so good to me as well. A month … Continue reading Facebook Memory
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Beach Dreams
Photo by J. Howerton My sweet partner, J., took this photo a few years ago when we were visiting my hometown. He blew it up and had it mounted as a wall hanging for me the following Christmas. I decided to put it on our bedroom wall in the spot I see as soon as … Continue reading Beach Dreams
Meatballs & Butterflies 