What They Say

People will tell you you’re too fat, you drink too much, your hair is too short People will tell you your hair is too long, you have too many tattoos, your voice is too loud People will tell you you're too quiet, you’re dressed like a freak, you eat too much crap People will tell … Continue reading What They Say

The Sweet Spot

You are allowed not to like people who have hurt you. This is a simple concept. But we are often sold the idea that unless we pardon those who have hurt us, we will somehow be less evolved, less whole. I call bullshit on that. You can be in the middle a full-blown, self-empowering life … Continue reading The Sweet Spot

To My Daughter

As I get closer to the half-century mark, I reflect a lot. I don’t know if it’s because I actually have the time to do that, if it’s a natural occurrence as we age, or if my personal  experiences have precipitated it, but it’s happening. I have a front row seat to my 17-year-old daughter’s … Continue reading To My Daughter


I quit drinking four years ago. I'd made the decision on a sunny day in Manhattan, and then four days later the world as I knew it fell apart. I don't think there's anything weird or coincidental about that. I think the Universe was giving me a head start on a new life. Alcohol had … Continue reading 1460


Four years ago, the man I was married to decided to leave. Without going into the specifics of the depths of that particular hell, I will say that it scared the shit out of me. Everything I believed to be true was turned upside down and inside out. And I mean everything. I had spent half my … Continue reading Fear

The Juggler

I went to a Cirque du Soleil performance tonight with my daughter, and there was a juggler who performed. He was backed by xylophone-playing "crocodiles," a tuba-playing wrestler, and a couple of your standard drummers - although we all know drummers are anything but standard, don't we? Anyway, the juggler started off with three pins, … Continue reading The Juggler


How do you apologize if you've completely screwed up? Honestly, you may have done the kind of damage that is irrevocable. You may have done something that hurt someone so badly there's nothing that will take away their pain. But the old adage "actions speak louder than words" means something where apologies are concerned, and … Continue reading Apologies

Meatballs & Butterflies

April is Autism Awareness Month. I'm aware of autism every day because I have a 13-year-old son on the autism spectrum.  He was diagnosed when he was in kindergarten. The teacher, a woman who'd been in the profession for 25 years, contacted me about excessive verbal outbursts. He would just shout out random sounds throughout … Continue reading Meatballs & Butterflies