A moving truck is parked next door, and it's making me sad. We bought this house back in 2001 when our daughter was just 18-months-old and still carrying around her singing Barney doll. Our next-door-neighbors, Bill and Susie, still had the last of their 5 children - a senior in high school at the time - … Continue reading Neighbors

In the Middle

Navigating middle age is almost as tricky as puberty, y’all. It’s like I blinked, and shit just got crazy. My hair is turning white, my hormones are whacked out, my laugh lines are deepening. This isn't throwing me into a tailspin (yet!) because I know there is so much more to me than how I look. This 48-year-old … Continue reading In the Middle

The Last Summer

I drove my daughter to her final day of 11th grade this morning. She's planning to get her driver's license this summer so she said to me, "This is probably the last time you'll ever drive me to school." Sweet Jesus, where has the time gone?! I get one more summer with her under my roof before she … Continue reading The Last Summer

Show Up

The greatest gift you can give to others is to show up as exactly who you are. Many times, we are afraid to be truly seen. We want to put our very best foot forward, which is admirable, and in our current curated society of social media, it's very easy to do. As we know, though, … Continue reading Show Up

For the Dads

I see you, dads. I see you changing the diapers and warming the bottles. I see you holding little hands and reading bedtime stories. I see you pushing swings and playing games.  I see you drying tears and bandaging boo-boos. I see you helping with homework and coaching soccer teams. I see you volunteering in … Continue reading For the Dads


My 30th high school reunion is this year, and that has my mind on times gone by. I had a lot of fun in high school, so I look back with smiles and laughter. I have so many great memories, but there's one I find particularly cool.  I had a short-lived stint as a cheerleader … Continue reading Reminiscence

Black, White, and Shades of Grey

Someone used to tell me, quite frequently, that I was "such a black and white thinker," meaning I was rigid in my ideas of right and wrong and unable to see shades of grey. It was delivered - and I took it - as a criticism and a deficiency in myself, and it lodged in … Continue reading Black, White, and Shades of Grey


Years ago, when friends of mine were moving into their new home in one of our city's older neighborhoods, the guy across the street came over and offered to “smudge” their house. None of us had any idea what he was talking about, so he explained. Dried, bundled sage is burned like incense in order … Continue reading Voodoo

The Pivot

If you’re a ruminator – someone who turns thoughts over and over in your mind – you might want to utilize a strategy called “The Pivot.” The Pivot keeps you from spiraling down into the vortex of unanswerable questions or what-ifs. Here’s how it works. You’re sitting there sipping your tea on Sunday morning and … Continue reading The Pivot