As a follow-up to my last post, I thought I'd offer the more uplifting story of how I forgave myself after my divorce. You might wonder how anyone whose spouse has lied, cheated, and left could feel any kind of guilt over divorcing that person, but I can tell you it's definitely possible. My biggest … Continue reading Forgiveness Part Deux
Through the years, several people have told me that in order to "fully heal" I need to forgive the people who have wronged me. It's a nice thought, and there are numerous people I have forgiven in my lifetime. Some actions, however, are not forgive-able. You may disagree, and that's your right. But doling out … Continue reading Forgiveness
Dang, it's been months since I blogged. It's not that I haven't had anything to say; I have. It's just mostly been a barrage of middle-aged-woman irritations, though, and I haven't been too sure that's something that needs to be sent out into the Universe right now, ya know? But here's the deal: I started … Continue reading Where Ya Been?
You know how Facebook shows your memories? One popped up today for me that made me realize how much I’ve changed. I had made a comment about how great my birth year had been, and then I said I hoped that year - 2013 - would be so good to me as well. A month … Continue reading Facebook Memory
Growing up in Florida, I never really got to experience the seasonal changes that autumn brings. Florida, for the most part, has two seasons: hot and hotter. I'm a beach girl, so it never bothered me, and I assumed it was normal to lie in the sun on Christmas. So when I moved to the … Continue reading My 5 Favorite Things About Autumn
I'm typically an optimist. I believe in the goodness of people, and I try to be a good person myself. I like to believe that I have strong morals and values, and when I screw up, I apologize and change my behavior to the best of my ability. I believe that love is stronger than … Continue reading Facing Reality
We've got a lot of crazy stuff going on right now. Pandemics, elections, remote learning, working from home, civil unrest, you name it. Because we've been asked to be home so much, it's really easy for people to start feeling isolated and alone. When you feel isolated and alone, it's really easy to start sinking … Continue reading Check On Your People
My Tennessee grandmother had a ceramic porch decoration that said "Never Hurry, Never Worry" on it. It hangs in my home now as a reminder, mainly because I'm probably one of the biggest worriers on the planet and need the encouragement. I worry about my kids, I worry about employment for myself, I worry about … Continue reading Does Worry Ever Help?
After my divorce, I knew I wanted to be in a healthy, adult relationship. This may sound nuts, but I did my share of soul-searching during my ex's affair, and that was one thing I decided. I want to grow old with someone who truly loves me, and although I was very sad that it … Continue reading The List
It's July 1, and I realized I had absolutely nothing to write in June. I was busy being quiet, watching, learning, absorbing, grieving, and trying to make sense of everything that's going on in the world. When I feel confused and scared, I don't have a lot to write about. I fear pissing people off. … Continue reading Coming Out of Hiding