At the start of this decade, I had just turned 40 and celebrated my 14th wedding anniversary to my kids’ dad. My older child was about to turn 10, My younger child had just turned 6 and had just been diagnosed with autism. I had no idea my life was going to blow up and … Continue reading Threshold
I’ve learned a lot over the last 50 years (and still have much to learn). I think my most significant moments of growth have occurred, though, during life’s challenges. In the middle of them, it felt awful. But when I got to the other side, I realized I was smarter and maybe a little more … Continue reading Life’s Lessons
I get excited about a lot of things, but at the moment, I think I’m most excited about finishing the year (decade!) strong. I’ve never been much of a New Year’s resolution person, and as someone who is a lifelong learner and educator, I tend to equate September with fresh starts. This year, I was … Continue reading Are You Excited? I’m Excited!
Dear 2014 Kristi, I’m writing to you from five years in the future, and there are some important things you need to know. The pain you’re in won’t last forever. The dark thoughts you’re having are understandable considering what he’s been doing, but I am here to tell you that you’re going to … Continue reading Letter to Myself Five Years Ago
Turning 50 was a quiet big deal for me. Quiet in that I didn’t celebrate in any elaborate way, and big in that it’s brought with it a half century of growth, realization, and humility. I recently read a list about 50 things a woman over 50 should have, and I thought I’d write my … Continue reading 50/50
I spent part of the day yesterday cleaning and re-organizing my kitchen pantry. Those of you who know me know how much I love clutter-busting and clearing out – I even do a little bit of personal organizing on the side when I can. It’s one of those “zone” things for me, and I can … Continue reading Lessons from the Pantry
Every now and then, I get in a funk. It’s not quite a depression, but it’s a place where my motivation is lacking, my thoughts spiral down into old could’ves and should’ves, and I have some trouble focusing on what’s going right in my life. Generally, I’m an optimist, but we all have our moments … Continue reading Funk-Be-Gone
I was recently looking at old family photos and videos. They had been “lost” when my home server died, and I didn’t know how to recover them. They sat there on that server in my family room for a few years until my tech-wiz friend was able to get them back for me. My daughter … Continue reading Misty Watercolor Memories
Healing doesn’t happen in a straight line. After my divorce, I thought it would be a sprint to “fully healed,” and I couldn’t have been more wrong. Speedbumps occur at regular and not-so-regular intervals. They’re reminders that any sort of loss, grief, or heartbreak may never completely heal even if you grow into a much … Continue reading Speedbumps
I used to have trouble asking for help. I think it’s because somewhere along the line, I got it in my head that because I was a smart person, I should be able to figure things out and do them on my own. I’ve gotten better at asking for help as I’ve gotten older, though, … Continue reading Do You Need An Assist?