*African proverb My body has often been the object of critique by people who claimed to love me. Never mind being called “thunder thighs” by the little league football players when I was ELEVEN. Never mind the neighbor boy who said, “You’d be really pretty if you lost weight” when I was 15 and weighed … Continue reading The Axe Forgets; The Tree Remembers*
Healing
Closing Time
I didn’t write much while my house was in escrow. It felt kinda weird for me to do so while things were “in limbo” so to speak. But guess what?! It closed Friday! I was fortunate enough to be able to move out prior to listing, but I was still the owner for about 6 … Continue reading Closing Time
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Going Up
The house goes on the market tomorrow. I’m excited and nervous. I’ve been driving my son over each morning so he can continue riding the bus to school, and today after he left, I took a few minutes to walk around inside and look at the finished staging. It’s my house but not anymore, you … Continue reading Going Up
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City Life
We’ve moved from the ‘burbs of our city to the city center and have been here a little over 2 weeks now. After all the work and excitement of purging, packing, moving, and unpacking (not to mention getting the house on the market), we are finally settled in our new home. I must say I … Continue reading City Life
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The Beginning of the End
Tomorrow is Christmas Eve - and the beginning of the last Christmas my kids will have in their childhood home. I’m typing in the glow of the lit-up Christmas tree they helped me trim weeks ago with the ornaments that one collects during an adult lifetime. It’s a bittersweet feeling for sure. My home - … Continue reading The Beginning of the End
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Forgiveness Part Deux
As a follow-up to my last post, I thought I'd offer the more uplifting story of how I forgave myself after my divorce. You might wonder how anyone whose spouse has lied, cheated, and left could feel any kind of guilt over divorcing that person, but I can tell you it's definitely possible. My biggest … Continue reading Forgiveness Part Deux
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Forgiveness
Through the years, several people have told me that in order to "fully heal" I need to forgive the people who have wronged me. It's a nice thought, and there are numerous people I have forgiven in my lifetime. Some actions, however, are not forgive-able. You may disagree, and that's your right. But doling out … Continue reading Forgiveness
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Facebook Memory
You know how Facebook shows your memories? One popped up today for me that made me realize how much I’ve changed. I had made a comment about how great my birth year had been, and then I said I hoped that year - 2013 - would be so good to me as well. A month … Continue reading Facebook Memory
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Facing Reality
I'm typically an optimist. I believe in the goodness of people, and I try to be a good person myself. I like to believe that I have strong morals and values, and when I screw up, I apologize and change my behavior to the best of my ability. I believe that love is stronger than … Continue reading Facing Reality
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5 Tips for Dealing with Toxic People
Chances are, you know at least one toxic person whether through work or family or friendships. They can be difficult, mean, manipulative, or even sickeningly sweet to get what they want. You feel exhausted after spending any time with them because of their self-absorption, tendency to create drama, dishonesty, lack of compassion, or manipulation. Everything … Continue reading 5 Tips for Dealing with Toxic People
Meatballs & Butterflies 