Facing Reality

I'm typically an optimist. I believe in the goodness of people, and I try to be a good person myself. I like to believe that I have strong morals and values, and when I screw up, I apologize and change my behavior to the best of my ability. I believe that love is stronger than … Continue reading Facing Reality

5 Tips for Dealing with Toxic People

Chances are, you know at least one toxic person whether through work or family or friendships. They can be difficult, mean, manipulative, or even sickeningly sweet to get what they want. You feel exhausted after spending any time with them because of their self-absorption, tendency to create drama, dishonesty, lack of compassion, or manipulation. Everything … Continue reading 5 Tips for Dealing with Toxic People

The List

After my divorce, I knew I wanted to be in a healthy, adult relationship. This may sound nuts, but I did my share of soul-searching during my ex's affair, and that was one thing I decided. I want to grow old with someone who truly loves me, and although I was very sad that it … Continue reading The List

Know Your Worth

If you've ever been cheated on, especially if you were married, you might have tried to convince your cheating partner that they were making a mistake, that you love them (so of course they love you back), that they shouldn't flush your relationship down the toilet, etc. This is one of the biggest time-wasters known … Continue reading Know Your Worth

It’s a No From Me, Dog

I woke up to about 25 different articles showing photos of what was supposedly an “adorable backstage moment” (Insider) between Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston last night at the SAG awards. Of course, the Interwebs are full of commentary and excitement over this very brief interaction which is unsurprising. What IS surprising is how many … Continue reading It’s a No From Me, Dog

Threshold

At the start of this decade, I had just turned 40 and celebrated my 14th wedding anniversary to my kids’ dad. My older child was about to turn 10, My younger child had just turned 6 and had just been diagnosed with autism. I had no idea my life was going to blow up and … Continue reading Threshold

Life’s Lessons

I’ve learned a lot over the last 50 years (and still have much to learn). I think my most significant moments of growth have occurred, though, during life’s challenges. In the middle of them, it felt awful. But when I got to the other side, I realized I was smarter and maybe a little more … Continue reading Life’s Lessons

Are You Excited? I’m Excited!

I get excited about a lot of things, but at the moment, I think I’m most excited about finishing the year (decade!) strong. I’ve never been much of a New Year’s resolution person, and as someone who is a lifelong learner and educator, I tend to equate September with fresh starts. This year, I was … Continue reading Are You Excited? I’m Excited!

Letter to Myself Five Years Ago

Dear 2014 Kristi,   I’m writing to you from five years in the future, and there are some important things you need to know.   The pain you’re in won’t last forever. The dark thoughts you’re having are understandable considering what he’s been doing, but I am here to tell you that you’re going to … Continue reading Letter to Myself Five Years Ago

50/50

Turning 50 was a quiet big deal for me. Quiet in that I didn’t celebrate in any elaborate way, and big in that it’s brought with it a half century of growth, realization, and humility. I recently read a list about 50 things a woman over 50 should have, and I thought I’d write my … Continue reading 50/50