Facebook Memory

You know how Facebook shows your memories? One popped up today for me that made me realize how much I’ve changed. I had made a comment about how great my birth year had been, and then I said I hoped that year - 2013 - would be so good to me as well. A month … Continue reading Facebook Memory

The List

After my divorce, I knew I wanted to be in a healthy, adult relationship. This may sound nuts, but I did my share of soul-searching during my ex's affair, and that was one thing I decided. I want to grow old with someone who truly loves me, and although I was very sad that it … Continue reading The List

Know Your Worth

If you've ever been cheated on, especially if you were married, you might have tried to convince your cheating partner that they were making a mistake, that you love them (so of course they love you back), that they shouldn't flush your relationship down the toilet, etc. This is one of the biggest time-wasters known … Continue reading Know Your Worth

Life’s Lessons

I’ve learned a lot over the last 50 years (and still have much to learn). I think my most significant moments of growth have occurred, though, during life’s challenges. In the middle of them, it felt awful. But when I got to the other side, I realized I was smarter and maybe a little more … Continue reading Life’s Lessons

Letter to Myself Five Years Ago

Dear 2014 Kristi,   I’m writing to you from five years in the future, and there are some important things you need to know.   The pain you’re in won’t last forever. The dark thoughts you’re having are understandable considering what he’s been doing, but I am here to tell you that you’re going to … Continue reading Letter to Myself Five Years Ago

Misty Watercolor Memories

I was recently looking at old family photos and videos. They had been “lost” when my home server died, and I didn’t know how to recover them. They sat there on that server in my family room for a few years until my tech-wiz friend was able to get them back for me. My daughter … Continue reading Misty Watercolor Memories

Speedbumps

Healing doesn’t happen in a straight line. After my divorce, I thought it would be a sprint to “fully healed,” and I couldn’t have been more wrong. Speedbumps occur at regular and not-so-regular intervals. They’re reminders that any sort of loss, grief, or heartbreak may never completely heal even if you grow into a much … Continue reading Speedbumps

Perspective

I was recently beating myself up over past life choices. I mean, I was going at it in my head like nobody’s business to the point of tears. I’ve done some stupid things in my life that have had lasting consequences, and when you get to be a half-century old, you start to look at … Continue reading Perspective

50’s Doorstep

I started my 40’s a decade ago with a kick-ass, blow-out party that my then-husband threw for me. It was the best party I had ever been to, and that’s still the case. My kids were 5 and 9. My marriage, I thought, was solid. I was looking forward to continuing our life as a … Continue reading 50’s Doorstep

Making Space

When my ex-husband left the home we had shared for years, there were empty spaces in the drawers and closets and bookshelves. He took a few pieces of furniture, leaving empty spaces where they’d stood. The garage bay where he’d parked his car? Empty. I remember walking around the house in those early days, looking … Continue reading Making Space