One late night, a drunk person told me some cold, hard truths about myself. Hearing about the less-than-desirable parts of yourself is rough. Most of us already know them but actually hearing them spoken out loud to you by another human being can be jarring. I had been resistant to hearing things like this in … Continue reading The Chance
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The Winding Road to Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a tricky bitch sometimes. The bigger the offense, the longer forgiveness often takes. It’s hard because a lot of times we’re told that the best path to healing is to forgive. You know the drill: forgiveness is more for you than the person who hurt you; forgiveness is what makes everything less burdensome; … Continue reading The Winding Road to Forgiveness
Trustable
I love words. I love reading them. I love saying them. I love listening to them. I love combining them. Words – and how we use them – are so important. When I started dating after my divorce, one of the things that was at the top of my wish list of qualities in a … Continue reading Trustable
Middle-aged Divorced Chick Gives Unsolicited Relationship Advice
Greet your partner with a kiss. When you’ve been apart, reconnect by wrapping your arms around one another and kissing like you mean it. The Gottman Institute says a 6-second kiss is all it takes to bring you back into your partner’s world. They suggest doing this when taking leave of one another as well. … Continue reading Middle-aged Divorced Chick Gives Unsolicited Relationship Advice
The Dating Life (With Kids)
Please allow me to give you a glimpse into the dating life of a two 48-year-old humans who are the primary caregivers of their children. When J and I met, we had about a month’s worth of dates before we knew we wanted to see each other exclusively. We also knew that our kids were … Continue reading The Dating Life (With Kids)
Got Guilt?
Guilt is an interesting thing. Defined as “a feeling of deserving blame for offenses,” many people perpetually carry guilt around with them - like a cancer in their soul. Guilt can make us do some pretty crazy things. We may try to minimize our offenses. We may try to make up for our behavior with … Continue reading Got Guilt?