One late night, a drunk person told me some cold, hard truths about myself. Hearing about the less-than-desirable parts of yourself is rough. Most of us already know them but actually hearing them spoken out loud to you by another human being can be jarring. I had been resistant to hearing things like this in … Continue reading The Chance
Forgiveness is a tricky bitch sometimes. The bigger the offense, the longer forgiveness often takes. It’s hard because a lot of times we’re told that the best path to healing is to forgive. You know the drill: forgiveness is more for you than the person who hurt you; forgiveness is what makes everything less burdensome; … Continue reading The Winding Road to Forgiveness
I love words. I love reading them. I love saying them. I love listening to them. I love combining them. Words – and how we use them – are so important. When I started dating after my divorce, one of the things that was at the top of my wish list of qualities in a … Continue reading Trustable
Greet your partner with a kiss. When you’ve been apart, reconnect by wrapping your arms around one another and kissing like you mean it. The Gottman Institute says a 6-second kiss is all it takes to bring you back into your partner’s world. They suggest doing this when taking leave of one another as well. … Continue reading Middle-aged Divorced Chick Gives Unsolicited Relationship Advice
Please allow me to give you a glimpse into the dating life of a two 48-year-old humans who are the primary caregivers of their children. When J and I met, we had about a month’s worth of dates before we knew we wanted to see each other exclusively. We also knew that our kids were … Continue reading The Dating Life (With Kids)
Guilt is an interesting thing. Defined as “a feeling of deserving blame for offenses,” many people perpetually carry guilt around with them - like a cancer in their soul. Guilt can make us do some pretty crazy things. We may try to minimize our offenses. We may try to make up for our behavior with … Continue reading Got Guilt?