*African proverb My body has often been the object of critique by people who claimed to love me. Never mind being called “thunder thighs” by the little league football players when I was ELEVEN. Never mind the neighbor boy who said, “You’d be really pretty if you lost weight” when I was 15 and weighed … Continue reading The Axe Forgets; The Tree Remembers*
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Walter
After work yesterday, my husband and I decided to walk down to a neighborhood spot for dinner. This is a place we haven’t made a favorite yet, but their happy hour menu has several items that looked good to us, so we bundled up and headed over. Not only were we greeted by a hostess … Continue reading Walter
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Never Say Never
One thing I’ve learned in my life is that any time I say I’m “never” gonna do something, I inevitably do exactly that thing. Seriously! I may not do the thing for years or decades, but rest assured that if I say I’m “never” gonna do it, it’s coming down the pike sooner or later. … Continue reading Never Say Never
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Reset
Pacific Twilight (image by author) For all of us, the last year has been out of the ordinary in ways we never could have imagined. We’ve not been able to see so many people we love. We’ve not been able to travel wherever we’d like. Many of us have tried to stay home and limit … Continue reading Reset
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Letter to Myself Five Years Ago
Dear 2014 Kristi, I’m writing to you from five years in the future, and there are some important things you need to know. The pain you’re in won’t last forever. The dark thoughts you’re having are understandable considering what he’s been doing, but I am here to tell you that you’re going to … Continue reading Letter to Myself Five Years Ago
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Perspective
I was recently beating myself up over past life choices. I mean, I was going at it in my head like nobody’s business to the point of tears. I’ve done some stupid things in my life that have had lasting consequences, and when you get to be a half-century old, you start to look at … Continue reading Perspective
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Reflections on 2018
As December progresses, and the year draws to a close, I think about where I’ve been and where I’m going. This was another year of big changes and growth. I am mostly healed from my divorce. My kids’ dad left for good in December of 2014. It’s been four years of learning how to single-parent. … Continue reading Reflections on 2018
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Today and Probably Tomorrow
Until I was in my mid-40’s, I believed I could control things in my life. I believed that if I did THIS, then THAT would happen. I believed that if I cared for someone with all-consuming love, then surely they felt the same way about me. I believed that my life was what it was … Continue reading Today and Probably Tomorrow
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Last Time
“Lasts” are often bittersweet. Things like graduations, marriages, and births are often huge moments of celebration at the end of something. They have sadness mixed in because of what’s ended, but that’s expected. Stuff like this is the stuff we see coming. We anticipate it, and we wait for it, and we enjoy it when … Continue reading Last Time
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Something to Give Up
Put your damn phone down! Nothing says “I don’t care what you’re saying” more than staring into your phone when someone right in front of you is trying to have a conversation. This is something that’s discussed a lot, but I’m still guilty of doing it, and I see more and more people doing it … Continue reading Something to Give Up
Meatballs & Butterflies 