This morning on the deck with the hummingbirds flitting around and before the heat of the day set in, my boyfriend lovingly plucked a stray hair from my upper lip (midlife sure is grand, y'all) and then laughed and jokingly proclaimed, "The romance is dead!" It got me thinking. Romance is wonderful. Gazing longingly into … Continue reading Plucking Hairs

I was recently talking with someone who has told me on numerous occasions that he has some pretty severe regrets over a bad decision he made. "I fucked up," he says. "I regret it," he says. I know I'm not the only person he's told this, and if you knew the situation, you'd know he … Continue reading The Difference is Action

Just for today, slow down. Take a look around you. Listen to the sounds of the kids at the park, the squeak of the swings as they fly back and forth. Remember what it was like to be a kid of 5 or 10, soaring through the air in your innocence and joy. Just for today, … Continue reading Just For Today

"They" say women need their girlfriends for optimum health, and I'd have to agree. I just spent last evening and this morning with some of my friends. These are women who have kids roughly my kids' ages and aging parents and relationship ups & downs and jobs and societal concerns. These are women I have … Continue reading Girlfriend Gratitude

There will be times in life - possibly many of them - when things just won't make sense. Things will go wrong, bad decisions will be made, people will leave one way or another. And you will be left standing there, shaking your head or scratching it, and thinking to yourself, "What the hell? What … Continue reading PSA #947

I love how the Universe puts people in your path at the EXACT moment you need them. Like, always. I was feeling a little (ok, maybe a lot) sorry for myself this afternoon, standing in line at the Bartell pharmacy when I met Carol. Carol is 83. (I know this because she told me three … Continue reading Carol

I believe it is our choices and not willpower that moves us past addictions, toxic relationships, or any other self-destructive behavior. Willpower - the ability to control oneself or one's thoughts - certainly plays a part. But alone, willpower is only a temporary solution. Choice - the act of picking or deciding between two or more … Continue reading Choice

Today, I came across a photo of my children that was taken on Halloween, 2011. In it, my daughter is 11 and dressed as Cookie Monster; my son is 7 and dressed as a magician.   The magician's hat is a little too big on his sweet head, and his smile is tight-lipped and crooked. … Continue reading Reflection 

There was this one time a complete stranger did some really shitty stuff that affected me and my children in life-changing and permanent ways. This person behaved in the most cruel, self-centered, classless way a person can behave and seemed to take great pleasure in doing so. To protect my family, I asked this person … Continue reading Growth, Change, and Shitty People